Be careful, you might be dating a violent man!
Love, relationship and family
He doesn't show respect to his mother, sisters, or any woman in his life. He thinks women are stupid and worthless.Updated on January 22, 2021, Seytoo
Very often, violent men are often victims of abuse themselves. The signs of an abusive man can be psychological, verbal, physical or sexual. If your partner is exhibiting one or more of these signs, it might be time for you to reevaluate and exit your relationship or find a strategy to help him change his behaviour.
Jealousy and Possessiveness - He becomes jealous of your family, friends, co-workers, etc. He tries to isolate you. He considers his wife and children as his property and not as unique people. He accuses you of cheating or flirting with other men for no reason. He always asks where you've been and with whom in an accusatory way.
Control - He is too time consuming and should be the center of your attention. He controls the finances, the car, and the activities in which you participate. He gets angry if the woman starts showing signs of independence or strength.
Superiority - He always justifies his actions so that he can be "right" by blaming you or others. The point of an abusive man is to make you feel weak so that they can feel powerful. Abusers are often insecure and this power makes them feel better about themselves.
Manipulation - He's trying to make you believe it's your fault, he's abusive. He says he can't help but be abusive if you feel sorry for him and keep trying to "help" him.
His actions don't match what he says - He breaks his promises as he feels and through blackmail sometimes.
He punishes you - A psychologically abusive man may withhold sex, emotional intimacy, or play the "silent" game as punishment when he doesn't get what he wants.
He becomes reluctant to ask for help - A violent man doesn't think there is anything wrong with him, so why should he ask for help? He doesn't admit his faults, or he blames his childhood or other external circumstances.
He doesn't respect women - He doesn't show respect to his mother, sisters, or any woman in his life. He thinks women are stupid and worthless.
He has a history of abusing women and / or of being abused himself - Abusive behaviour can be a generational dysfunction, and men who are guilty or abused have a high chance of becoming abusers.
If the violent man is unwilling to improve himself, then you must take steps to protect yourself, for separation is better than eternal hell.