Do you lose your freedom once you get married?

Love is not necessarily the enemy of freedom. These two feelings are always found at the center of a couple’s life. Here are some explanations you need to understand.

Feel your existence and freedom

To be able to explain the fact of remaining free while being in love with your partner, you must first go back to the very beginning of the relationship itself. Then, you will see the obvious: no one has forced anyone to put themselves with another. It’s a decision you made with total freedom.

In a couple’s life, to stay free is to love while pursuing your dream. And to enjoy a complete happiness, you have to be in perfect harmony with the person you love. It can be a humanitarian aid project or a trip around the world; it has to be something you freely choose to do and enjoy together.

Conflicting desires

It is quite possible to succeed as a couple while keeping your freedom. Love must never be a sacrifice. While the challenge is not easy, it is not impossible to win it. There are people who have lived together for years, and they are example to prove the possibility for you to do the same. To get there, you have to start by leaving aside that false image of love. Nothing prevents lovers from having passion.

On the other hand, they are not obliged to refrain from any other activity each, on his or her own. Just because you go to the gym two or three times a week doesn't mean you don't like your other half. A fulfilling life for two must know how to harmoniously combine freedom and love. A fulfilled person brings joy in his couple.

Yes, there can exist an “I” in “we”

Certainly, when you make the decision to love someone, to be with someone, the first thing that comes to mind is consensus. It is only natural that we give up the “I” to the famous “we”. But what we tend to forget is that the “I” never disappears. It is impossible to destroy the “I” since this notion is the very essence of our own existence. A person’s identity continues to build at every stage of their life. Thus, by falling in love, the person discovers another part of her or himself.

What someone gets from a relationship is part of his or her own identity even if her partner has contributed to it. For a love life to flourish fully, a minimum of fusion is necessary without forgetting everyone's secret garden. In reality, the notion of “we” must remain psychic. One gives a part of oneself to the other and in return, the other gives back of a little of him or herself.

Love and freedom, everyone has their own definition

The concept of freedom varies from a person to another. It can happen when you find your home after spending some wonderful time with your partner. For another lover, it can be a special moment without his companion during a day of fishing or reading or watching movie alone. Just because some people spend moments away from their partners doesn't mean they don't like them. It’s another way of nurturing their Love.

In the first case, the couple chose not to live together so that on each reunion, the sensations of the first day reappear.

In the second case, it is very likely that his companion does not enjoy this activity. He will take the opportunity to indulge his passion on his side. In the evening, they will meet and tell their stories.

So, rethink about the notion of freedom. You do not have to feel that you lost your freedom after getting married.

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