Love: Are men smarter than women?
Love, relationship and family
Women always believe (especially at the time of marriage) that the man has abandoned her to take another (the one his mother has chosen for him, or maybe a virgin with whom he has not consumed pleasures), but in reality, he had five of his sweethearts, and if he elects one, it is because he will automatically make four of them.Published on January 13, 2021, Seytoo
Men are all the same, they paint the world in pink for you, build you palaces on clouds, before leaving and dispelling the mirage that they never stopped weaving during the seduction, leaving their lovers, rocked by the melody of illusion. But since this observation is starting to date, how is it that Eve did not take the necessary predispositions to guard against this disappointment? Why do men always come out less traumatized by failed love affairs than women? Which brings us back to the very frightening question: are men smarter than women?
The first elements of answers lie in the way in which couples are formed and how the game of seduction goes. The woman having the choice between the roosters of the bottom court who start to hop in their nuptial dance to seduce her, does not see herself obliged to analyze why the losers did not like her. Her primary concern is to take advantage of her chosen one while she misses him by choosing another from the bunch of suitors who are constantly waiting.
The man having the obligation to seduce and to charm does not have this permanent chance of choice, after his first failures of seduction; he has the obligation to understand why he failed in order to be able to excel during his next attempt. And then when he succeeds in seducing and after a while there is a breakup, his partner may find a buyer within a week as a long period of layoffs and application rejection awaits him.
His technique to counteract these deficiencies is twofold.
First, tell his sweetheart what she's waiting for, because the times before that his pride and honesty didn't allow him to do it, he got kicked out from the start. From now on, he would be smarter and more attentive and especially to the standards of his betrothed even if it means surpassing himself and playing a character that is not necessarily his just to pass this cruel phase of the pre-selection. After that, what may happen?
Second, to stop reliving the nightmarish and offensive period of emotional idleness, he will take everything that happens and create his own catalog and he will defer his choice for later. He will try to rebalance this balance of power by also having emergency plans. Except that the difference is that there is no commitment between the woman and her rescue plan, whereas for him, he must maintain it, if not maintain them.
Ultimately, it is this initial strong point for women to be able to choose which does not prevent them from being more capable of adapting to situations than men, she is unable to assimilate the passage of status or she should not make any effort to choose at a certain time from youth to status or she should make a phenomenal effort to keep her lover when the age advances a little.
Moreover, women always believe (especially at the time of marriage) that the man has abandoned her to take another (the one his mother has chosen for him, or maybe a virgin with whom he has not consumed pleasures), but in reality, he had five of his sweethearts, and if he elects one, it is because he will automatically make four of them.
The conclusion is that it is not a question of intelligence, but of differences of course, if it is women who had the social obligation to go towards men to seduce them, they would be more efficient with the capacity of their brains, but until they have had this need, it is the man who develops these techniques and remains more able to adapt to all kinds of situations while women mourn the disappearance of the race of prince charming.
Two possible solutions (but not guaranteed and not easy to adopt) would be not to bring these traumas to these young people so as not to allow them to evolve into false creatures and appearances, and especially to apprehend the analyzes they leaf through to understand what they must do and how they must act to preserve their couples instead of using his analyzes as the ultimate proof of the decadence of the race of males and of feeling sorry for their fates. It’s not about realizing that he can be with others, it’s about understanding how to make it your private garden without having to go elsewhere. The woman who understands this will not only be smarter than men, but also smarter than other women.