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Temptation and Infidelity: dare to control yourself, you can do it, it's your duty!

Updated on February 22, 2021, Seytoo
Temptation and Infidelity: dare to control yourself, you can do it, it's your duty!

Imagine, for example, that the loved one has the same attitude as yours, the same excuses and the same false reasoning. How will you feel? How will you feel when you learn, for example, that your wife visits the “sexy bad boy” next door every day to have fun because she considers it unfair to have to constantly control herself...

Nothing is better to destroy any impulse than to be persuaded to never be able to accomplish your aspirations. Such a state of mind prevents any attempt by some and shatters the enthusiasm of others from the first failure. It is because of such erroneous reasoning that you stay fat, that you easily succumb to the advances of the “kitten” next door, the one “nobody can resist.”

“If only I could do without it” is a roundabout way of saying, “I would like to but I can’t.” But to say “I cannot” is nonsense. What you consider impossible is actually possible. Just believe it! Now banish from your inner dialogue those destructive words “if only I could” and replace them with this phrase full of faith: “I can control myself.”

No circumstance, no matter how difficult, excuses infidelity. Many people manage to endure great marital difficulties without resorting to “illegal sex” for comfort. Those who give up fighting against their harmful tendencies excuse their passivity with a few other false convictions:

“There must be an easy way to control my cravings. Until I find it, I won't be tired of fighting my bad habit.”

“I failed to control myself by succumbing to temptation. This is proof that I am incapable of it; I might as well forget everything and resume my old habits.”

“If I insult myself with every misstep, it will reduce my failures.”

Some people think that calling each other names is an effective punishment in order to quit their habit. These insults only confirm and worsen the negative self-image. Already justifying their next failure in the face of temptation, these people enter a vicious circle where their bad self-image prompts them to do the forbidden, which confirms what they think of themselves.

Some other false beliefs.

“To be happy, I have to enjoy life. I only live once, don't I? There is no point in imposing constraints on me. Satisfy my desires; this is the passport to a successful life!”

“It's best not to think about the unwanted or destructive consequences of my excess. There is no need to think about the future, maybe there won't be. So better not be obsessed with my excess.”

“It is unfair to have to keep checking yourself while others do as they see fit.”

“I have mastered myself all month, I deserve a little reward. I deprived myself so much that I am entitled to a little pleasure. Go! This evening, I allow myself.”

“I've had a terrible week so I'm going to have fun and stop controlling myself, just for tonight. No one would take what I went through! Who would blame me for this small gap?”

It is such false reasoning that is at the root of our most stubborn habits. This is why it is essential to unmask these pernicious ideas which hide behind our attitudes or our weaknesses. Once brought to light, your job will be to replace them with the truth in order to truly change your behavior by putting yourself in the shoes of the person you are hurting by only thinking about your desires.

Imagine, for example, that the loved one has the same attitude as yours, the same excuses and the same false reasoning. How will you feel? How will you feel when you learn, for example, that your wife visits the “sexy bad boy” next door every day to have fun because she considers it unfair to have to constantly control herself...

Think ... and dare to control yourself, it's your duty.

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