What does the Religion say about husbands hitting their wives?
Love, relationship and family
In all other situations, the husband has no right to hit his wife for reasons such as his refusal to breastfeed the child or to prepare meals... because all these functions are not part of the wife's duties towards her husband.Updated on November 28, 2020, Seytoo
Anyone can have the mentality of the strong or the mentality of the weak. The strong very often manifest their superiority over the weak. It is easy to notice that the father or mother is hitting their children even when it is not a question of educating them.
It is also easy to notice that the governor orders that one opens fire on his people, or that they imprison them, or that they are pursued and mistreated. In all these phenomena, we find the same observation: the strong oppresses the weak.
As far as men and women are concerned, the mentality of the former towards the latter is that of the strong towards the weak. This gives him the impression that he has the right to hit his wife and do it as he pleases, regardless of whether or not he has the right to demand from his wife what he demands of himself. A man may also abuse his wife for relief or to let off steam in reaction to his clashes with others.
The legal qualification is clear on this subject: God - exalted and glorified - does not give a man the right to exercise his authority vis-à-vis his wife, within the framework of the conjugal relationship, that in only one situation which we will talk about right away. The wife wife is, within the framework of human relations in general, like any other foreign woman in relation to the husband. He has no right to insult or beat or unjustly kick her out of his house. He also doesn't have the right to mistreat or harm her, in every sense of the word, and as if she were a totally foreign woman. God does not give one human being the right to impose himself on another human being in these areas of life, whether or not the second has a relationship with the first.
There is only one situation where Islam mentions hitting: it is the situation where the woman revolts and renounces her marital duties, as when she prevents her from having sex with her. about which she must always have a positive attitude, except in cases where she cannot do so for compelling reasons. In this case Islam offers several solutions to put an end to the revolt of women. We mention two:
The first consists in the advice that must be given to the woman to open her eyes to the gravity of the error she commits and to the negative consequences of such an attitude in this lower world and in the Other World.
The second consists in the abandonment of the marital bed, which is a psychological punishment. The man can thus sleep in a place other than where his wife sleeps. He can turn his back on her, or do any other thing like that.
If these two solutions prove ineffective, the husband can then resort to hitting, insofar as he is within his rights in the face of his wife who revolts without valid reason and refuses to listen to the advice and to react appropriately. Hitting therefore becomes a right of the husband who seeks to safeguard the marital home and prevent it from collapsing with the divorce. In reality, the woman who does not listen to advice and does not fear abandonment and psychological punishment is a woman who can only be brought to her senses by beatings. The wise, calm and balanced woman is one who listens to advice, who opens up to discussion and who reacts psychologically in a way that does not lead to her husband abandoning the marriage bed. As for the woman who does not listen, nor hear, nor show herself sensitive, she is an abnormal woman and the fact of hitting her is the last solution, the surgical operation which saves marital life.
The teaching also indicates that hitting a woman should not go beyond the corrective function. Do not hurt her, or break a bone, or do it under the influence of a problem or a “psychic complex.”
It is therefore the only situation where it is allowed to hit the woman and it is necessary that before, all the peaceful means be tried. In all other situations, the husband has no right to hit his wife for reasons such as his refusal to breastfeed the child or to prepare meals... because all these functions are not part of the wife's duties towards her husband.
This is how Islam views itself on this issue. For this reason, all those who strike their wives, outside the limits set by God - exalted and glorified be He - are unjust people and it does not matter whether they strike their wives, their sisters or any of the others. women.