What makes married men so attractive?
Love, relationship and family
And behind this stubbornness lies the hope that he will eventually give up everything for us.Updated on December 01, 2020, Seytoo
Investigating the temptation of the forbidden with married or taken men ... There are those who always fall in love with men already taken. And those who are desperate to attract only married men. For these women, married life is fraught with pitfalls and these stories often lead to a breakup that is all the more painful as the other joins her legitimate spouse.
Psychologists speak of the "temptation of the forbidden" to describe this attraction to what cannot be obtained. It only takes an object that escapes us for it to suddenly become attractive to us. The ban acts on us like a doping agent: the stronger the ban, the greater the temptation. However, some women repeat this pattern over and over again and fail to thrive in a stable relationship.
At the root of this attraction to married men is often a great fear of commitment. When you have had failed role models (parents who separate, a particularly traumatic breakup) around you, you may find it difficult to launch yourself body and soul into a romantic relationship. Dating a married man is like halfway making a commitment, at least that's what many women subconsciously think. But as the relationship deepens, most women can't stand having to share their partner: jealousy sets in and it's the start of a downward spiral.
Why do we persist in this type of relationship? After months of lies and hope, many of us still believe it anyway. Lena, 31, says: “I knew he didn't treat me well but I always made excuses for him in front of my friends: he couldn't see me this weekend because he had had a difficult week at work. He hadn't called me because he had to take care of his children, etc.” We often prefer to be blind and refuse to see that the relationship is destructive rather than being alone. And behind this stubbornness lies the hope that he will eventually give up everything for us. But, alas, “happy ending” are very rare; and let's not forget: a man who has been fickle is very likely to be fickle again...