When marriage rhymes with madness: What should every couple understand?
Love, relationship and family
Love needs a celebration; it wants to cry out in front of the world. Marriage is a tremendous recognition of their worth to each spouse: so there is someone who values me so much that they stake their whole life with me. And, whether we ignore it or not, loyalty remains a sought-after value.Published on January 12, 2021, Denisse
Some single people sometimes tell to me, “Admit it, it's not reasonable to get married these days! That for fifty years perhaps to embark on such an adventure, at a time when the number of divorces is impressive, it is a crazy risk.”
A reflection that we can understand when we know that in addition the laws and the environment are not conducive.
That many, because they expect too much from married life, are inevitably disappointed, and infidelity is trivialized, in the very name of loyalty to oneself. Yes, marriage can seem more and more like madness.
And yet, if young people continue to marry against all odds, maybe it is a beautiful and sweet madness. It is because marriage remains perceived as a high place where love can frolic and grow more securely. Duration is the vow of love: two beings that love each other and are madly happy to be together can only have one desire: make it last!
Love needs a celebration; it wants to cry out in front of the world. Marriage is a tremendous recognition of their worth to each spouse: so there is someone who values me so much that they stake their whole life with me. And, whether we ignore it or not, loyalty remains a sought-after value.
But we also hear people say: does this love, especially if it is great, need a passage in front of the mayor and / or a blessing from a priest? Why these formalities?
This is to forget that engagement in front of a third party brings a plus. It is very easy, in the heat of passion, to make beautiful promises face to face. Marriage gives serious commitment and density. It is a social act, which was also wanted to protect women and children.
Still, sweet madness is only achievable under certain conditions: initially a beautiful and generous conception of married life, a thoughtful choice, and a good preparation for marriage. Then, the will to succeed, constant communication, the search for a deep unity without fusion, a good dose of fantasy, acceptance of the imperfection of the other, and of oneself.
And when an anchoring in faith is added, when, in the sacrament of marriage, the spouses allow Christ to love in them, then yes, they are capable of living the beautiful folly of marriage, since God gives them the capacity to the impossible, the capacity to love like Him with mad love!