Why is routine so dangerous in your love relationship?

Routine is an ordinary phenomenon that arises at the level of any relationship between two people who live together permanently, in all situations and for a long time, to the point that each of them loses any shadow of mystery that could arouse the interest of the other and encourage him to reach out to discover it.

In the conjugal relationship, the husband does not take long to be fully known by his wife and the latter to be known by that one. Their life then becomes very common and without common excitement, insofar as they administer their social relations, their private life, their desires and their domestic affairs by locking them in a closed system. In this way, there is not something available to each of them to interest and attract the other. Even the elements of excitement which animated their relationship before and at the beginning of their life together disappear because, when the man satisfies his needs in all their aspects, they quickly become blunt and become commonplace. This is not a phenomenon which characterizes the marital relationship alone, but a fact which extends to mark all human relationships such as kinship and friendship, etc. At the start, relationships are normally dynamic and energetic , but they eventually fall under the influence of inertia, closure and routine, which leads to boredom that can threaten the relationship.

The same phenomenon can be seen in our reactions to expressions of originality, majesty and beauty in life. These expressions can sometimes not sensitize us. The sun, the moon, the rivers… may not make us aware. Even food, clothes, and all the other things we love can lose their appeal and cease to interest us when they become familiar to us from being always in front of us.

It is therefore necessary, for both spouses, to mobilize themselves to find what could renew their activity and their dynamism, even at the level of the small details of their life at home. It can be useful, in this regard, to change, from time to time, the order of things in the house and that even of intimate marital desires. It is useful for them, for example, to change the way they satisfy their desires. It can be useful for them, if they have the necessary cultural level, to ask and discuss new questions, in the cultural or political field… This could introduce something new in their life and affect, to improve them, their discussions, their desires, their domestic affairs and their social relations...

We believe that the discovery of novelty, or of creation, within married life, can preserve the vitality necessary for this life to arouse the mutual interest of man and woman. And this through the fact that each one does something for the other, fills the void of his thought and responds positively to his desires and needs for renewal. We always aspire to the new and, therefore, both spouses must act in the direction of the renewal of their married life. It goes without saying that such an affair cannot be achieved without more awareness, more favorable conditions and more suitable social environments. Above all, a sufficient cultural level is needed to open up in everyone the horizons necessary to constitute the field of the expected renewal.

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