25 September 2021, Seytoo
Humility helps you to be happier and satisfied with your life, to endure and get out of bad times and to better manage and improve your relationships with others.
“It's hard to be humble when you're perfect on all fronts” we hear in an old song. Of course, few people would say that they are perfect in all aspects, the fact remains that being humble is very difficult, especially in a society that encourages competition and individuality. Even in such a society, humility remains a most important virtue. Learning to be humble is of major importance in any culture, so it is a value that helps develop rich relationships with others and take full advantage of them. How to get there?
Learn to understand your limits. No matter how talented you are, tell yourself that there is always someone out there who can definitely do better than you. It is towards these people that you must therefore direct your gaze, to study them so that you can progress and improve your skills.
Even if you excel in a certain area and is the only one doing this or that, there is always something else that you will never be able to do or that you may never be able to do.
Recognizing your limits does not mean giving up on dreams, much less giving up learning new things or working on the skills you already have.
Learn to recognize your mistakes and when you are wrong. People are often judged because it is difficult to pass judgment on oneself. It’s not only counterproductive, it can also be harmful. Indeed, judging others, leads to conflicts on the relational level, and prevents the development of possible relationships. Worse still, it can prevent the person from evolving and improving.
We are always judging people without even realizing it. Try the following exercise: whenever you find yourself judging one or more people, try to judge yourself instead. See how it will help you progress.
Count all the benefits you have. Often we take credit of things that could only be done by pure chance and with a little luck. Imagine that you have just graduated from a prestigious university and that you are major in your promotion. You fully deserve it, you would say, given your perseverance and all the hours you spent studying. Now suppose there is another person, as intelligent as you, who has just as much bleeding as you, but who has not been fortunate enough to have parents like yours to support them and encourage him, or who grew up in a different place or who simply had to make a bad choice in his life. You could have been in that person's place. Always remember that with just one flip, your whole life could change. Keep in mind that today could be the day when luck turns your back.
Appreciate the talents of others
Learn to appreciate the qualities and talents of others. Look beyond yourself to discover people and the things they can do, just appreciate them for what they really are.
You should actually understand that people are different from each other and appreciate the idea of dealing with different people. You will always have your own tastes and preferences, you will always like what you like now and will always hate what you hate, but rather train yourself to separate your own opinion from your fears and you will then be able to appreciate others better, you will then be more humble.
Stop comparing yourself to others. It's almost impossible to be “the best” or try to outdo everyone. Instead, try to describe things in the most objective way possible. Instead of saying, for example, that this or that person is the best guitarist of all time, just say what exactly you like about that person or just that you like the way they play. Forget these insane and overly simplistic comparisons and you'll be able to take advantage of everything without worrying about whether or not you're the best.
Recognize your limits
Never be afraid of making mistakes. Being humble requires being convinced that everyone can be wrong at any time. Understand this and you will have shed a very heavy burden. Little can be known of the immense knowledge accumulated since the dawn of time. The experience of each of us is just a tiny bit of the present and we know almost nothing about the future.
Do not be afraid to trust the judgment of others. It is true that it is not easy to recognize that one can be wrong at all times and that one cannot always be right, but it is even more difficult to recognize, in certain situations, that the others are right, especially when they do not share the same opinion as you. Submitting to the whims of her husband, a law that one opposes, or even the advice of her children can boost a person's ability to recognize their limits. Instead of just saying that you are fallible, act on this fact. Of course if you are aware that a certain thing is inappropriate, you should not consider it, Unfortunately, even with hindsight it is never obvious.
Rediscover the feeling of wonder
Rekindle your sense of wonder. Because as humans, we ignore a lot of things and we would normally expect to be much more amazed than we usually are. Children, on the other hand, have this sense of wonder, which stimulates their curiosity, which makes them very good observers, capable of learning very quickly. Do you really know how your microwave works? Would you be able to make one? What about your car? Your brain? Do you know how to draw a rose? This blasé attitude of “I saw everything, I understood everything” makes us feel far too important compared to what we really are. Be admiring and amazed as a child and you will not only be more humble, but willing to learn more.
Keep learning new things
Ask for advice. Contemplate the moral texts and sayings that address the subject of humility. Pray, meditate, and do everything in your power to free your attention from yourself. If on the other hand you are not too fan of spirituality, then consider the scientific method. Science requires humility. You must, in effect, get rid of all your preconceived judgments and be convinced that you do not know as much as you think you know.
Be predisposed to learn. Find people who inspire you and who you would like to resemble in terms of their skills in certain fields and ask them to coach you. Define the limits from the start, and ensure confidentiality and discernment for good sponsorship. As soon as you feel that you have reached the bottom and that you no longer need to learn and be supervised, you can then return to your initial situation.
Help your neighbor
Help your neighbor. Being humble implies respecting others. And one way to respect others is to help them. Make sure you treat everyone the same and help them when necessary, as this is the best thing to do. It is also said that when you help people who are not able to help you in return, you will then have known the true meaning of humility.
Be indulgent. Indulgence is the path to humility. Use Aikido when you need it when you have a conflict. In other words; absorb the venom of others' attacks and respond to them with gentleness and respect.
Do not hesitate to help people, the poorest and the weakest in particular.
Keep in mind that being humble has many benefits. Humility helps you to be happier and satisfied with your life, to endure and get out of bad times and to better manage and improve your relationships with others. It is also essential to be an exemplary apprentice. Because if you think you know everything you will never be open-minded enough to seek out more. Humility is, in a way, a great tool for personal development in general. It is certain that if you feel superior, you will not necessarily feel the need to improve yourself. Above all, humility allows you to be honest with yourself.
It's okay for you to only talk about yourself from time to time, but still make an effort to ask after the others too and to talk to them about them. When you are chatting with someone, make it a habit to listen carefully to the other person.
Seek advice from wise people you trust and then get accountable partners if you find this to be a weakness. Pride is often the cause of failure and it is said that prevention is always better than cure.
Be kind and caring. Help others and let them know that you will always be there for them.
Never brag about the things you have. You have to give to receive.
Appreciate your talents. Being humble does not mean that you should not be proud of yourself. Self-esteem is not pride. While both imply recognition of your talents and qualities, pride in someone who tends to be arrogant comes from a lack of self-confidence. Instead, think of everything you can do and the gifts you enjoy and thank the Lord for it.
Be friendly and have a big heart all the time, because you never know who needs to come to you.
Likewise, do not confuse humility and sycophancy (flattering the other in an exaggerated way in order to get something). Despite the difference between the two, there is far too much confusion.
If little humility turns out to be a very good thing, don't overdo it for fear of becoming a real doormat. Remember, it's all about moderation.
Seeking to be humble is not the same as being humble already. Often those who claim to be, do so only to reap merits. Others will find out, because even if you manage to deceive certain people, you will not be able to reap the same benefits that you really sought to develop your humility.
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