“Should I get a divorce or accept my marriage? Help me, what should I do?”
Love, relationship and family
Since this marriage, I spend my nights crying I think all the time about the man that I loved and that I still love... although the one who married me is very calm, does everything to make me happy and cares about me all the time.Updated on January 14, 2021, Khim
“Hi friends I really need your help I'm lost.
It's been a few months since I was dating a man and we were in great love. He planned our marriage all the time, from the beginning with a deadline that he put off too often. I was so afraid that deep down he was not being sincere. I didn't understand what his problem was, but all I knew was that we loved each other.
Nine months later, another man came to ask for my hand without even going out together. But he knew me three or more years ago. He had feelings for me, but never let me know. He was still distant, but everyone knew he loved me. Even his friends kept looking at me for that. This man told me he wanted to get to know me well first before expressing his feelings. And that he didn't want to get into a one-to-one relationship, because he's responsible and married. He was afraid that I would reject him too, because he could never take it due to the intensity of his love for me.
The first time he told me about marriage, I was shocked. This surprised me a lot and I told him immediately that it was not possible because I already loved someone else with whom I had a lot of plans. I had rejected his offer by then, but he was not discouraged. He thus appealed to his friends, his parents and my brother to convince me.
It was too difficult for me. I was stressed, didn't sleep, and didn't eat. And there I decided to talk it over with my boyfriend so he could have a serious talk with my parents or even come and ask for my hand before the other one comes back. And there he told me he wasn't ready. I then reiterated my feelings towards him by telling him that even if he has nothing to offer me, I don't mind... that I just want to be with him and that in the future, he will be able to take care if me, and offer everything that will be within reach. Despite this discussion with him, his position has not changed. He even got angry to tell me that no one should force his hand and that he will come in a month or two to ask for my hand. Afterwards he left me all alone so that I could decide on the other's proposal, instead of helping me, so as not to jeopardize our love. Unfortunately, within two days the other married me. He didn't want to wait because he was in a hurry and didn't want to lose me!
Since this marriage, I spend my nights crying I think all the time about the man that I loved and that I still love... although the one who married me is very calm, does everything to make me happy and cares about me all the time.
What should I do ... what do you think?”