Love and family
23 September 2021, Amara
This is how some people often get carried away in the illusion of believing that the misfortune of the other will allow them to extract the emotional magma that burns them from the inside. What a denial!
Love makes you blind, but sometimes a breakup opens your eyes! Indeed, it happens that one is disappointed after having given oneself and devoted in a romantic relationship. Sometimes we are disappointed with the one whose name we swore or by the one for whom we made a lot of sacrifices. Sometimes we are disappointed after having invested time, money and feelings in a relationship where the person has rewarded us with his indifference, his lies and his misconduct. The relationship is over, we of course fall into sadness and sorrow, that's normal! But sometimes also we fall into anger, hatred, even the desire for revenge. This is how some people often get carried away in the illusion of believing that the misfortune of the other will allow them to extract the emotional magma that burns them from the inside. What a denial!
When we have been disappointed in love, in each tear we shed, there is a lesson that makes us wiser than we were, and stronger than we thought. Love, the true one, is often such that one can be made to forgive when the one for whom one feels such love, struck. It is one thing to forgive and it is another to forget. Besides, it is fair to think that we never forget, we live with it. But, I think that whatever the reason for a breakup, and whatever the extent of the disappointment that follows for one who has been rejected or betrayed, one should never pour into bitterness or rancor. Never regret what you have done good to someone, even if you have harvested only evil in return. It is true that it is easier said than done, if the border between love and hate is so porous, keep in mind that revenge degrades us, where forgiveness grows us . So what's the point of taking revenge or hating the one we loved? To love is also to give without expecting anything in return. We can deplore a betrayal, but do not regret having been correct yourself.
Ingratitude serves to promote selfishness, but it should not discourage beneficence. If our mistakes are to serve us as lessons, they should not however transform our qualities into faults. Let the future “avenge” the suffering that the past has caused us, and continue to do good around us, including those who do not give it back. Thus, we will always leave our heads held high from our relationships. Also, it must be said that life does not end with a relationship. Unless you are sadistic, you don't find happiness in someone else's misfortune. So let go of those who took pleasure in making you suffer, let go those who want to leave you, they don't like you. Rather trust those who can see these three things: Your grief behind your smile, your love behind your anger, and the reason for your silence.
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