How should you manage your extremely jealous man?
Love & Family
Let’s get it right away: a man’s possessiveness has nothing to do with the love (excessive or not) he has for you. Rather, his jealousy is indicative of his fear of insecurity and his low self-esteem. This means that no matter how possessive it is, it is not "cute" and should be taken very seriously.Updated on October 20, 2020, Seytoo
Dating a jealous man is not easy. Without exaggerating, we can even say that it is hell. The risks? To be constantly subjected to emotional blackmail, to possessiveness crises and to have to manage a freedom that diminishes as and when his delusions of paranoia.
Possessive men tend to perpetually question your behavior, the relationships you have with others (especially men, of course), the way you behave with them, etc.
Sometimes this jealousy and possessiveness translates into downright abusive behavior. Be careful, I am talking about really jealous men here. From those who, if they could, would ban you from leaving your home altogether.
Let’s get it right away: a man’s possessiveness has nothing to do with the love (excessive or not) he has for you. Rather, his jealousy is indicative of his fear of insecurity and his low self-esteem. This means that no matter how possessive it is, it is not "cute" and should be taken very seriously.
Possessive and jealous men tend to turn any situation to their advantage. Their specialty? Impersonate the innocent victims of your unwarranted meanness.
You can easily tell if your new guy is the possessive type by looking at the relationship you have. If you find yourself tense and feeling guilty the moment you walk out of your house without her “permission,” then you've got a problem. Nothing serious, don't worry! Everything can work out.
The best thing to do if you find that you are dating a jealous man is not to fall into the traps he sets for you (subconsciously, of course, he's not a monster!).
He may try to make you feel guilty by telling you that the reason he asks you so much about the relationships you have with others is because he made you his priority that he put on hold his social life for you, and he is hurt that you do not do the same. This is the common argument of jealous men who try to keep you from seeing other people just to keep you to yourself.
Rather than fall for it, try having a discussion with him instead, to explain to him that you need the space and that he does too.
Let him know that a healthy relationship doesn't mean spending all of your time glued to each other, on the contrary! Let him know that your friends and family are very important to you, but that is not that he is not worthless.
If you fail to make him understand that you refuse to be suffocated in a relationship that will inevitably fail, then there is only one solution left: quit. Obviously this can be extremely difficult, but do it; it is for your good.
It’s not about leaving him for good, but rather giving him the necessary impetus to realize for himself that his overly possessive behavior has got the better of your relationship. Let him realize what he's lost and how much effort it takes to get you back, then give him a second chance.
If, despite your best efforts, he still refuses to understand that his behavior will get him nowhere, take your courage in both hands and end your relationship for good. I know that’s easier said than done, but don’t expect a jealous man to suddenly change his behavior.
His possessiveness may worsen over time, until a point where it is no longer bearable. Rather than risk losing feathers, prefer to end it immediately. Imagine that a year from now, he might be able to completely ban you from going out.
And you girls have you ever dealt with a jealous man?