How to manage your relationship despite the age difference?
Love & Family
You should absolutely avoid entering the parent / child pattern. If you are older than your man, for example, you will have to resist the temptation to criticize him about the way he dresses, behaves, etc. Doing so may make him feel like you are trying to mother him and therefore belittle him.Updated on October 14, 2020, Anna
Are you much younger or much older than your man? So the age difference in the couple, you know... Not easy to manage on a daily basis! But this does not mean that your relationship is doomed, as some bad tongues may say... So, to help you deal with the age difference in a relationship, here are some tips.
Identify the reasons that make your relationship work
Before you can overcome the barrier of the age difference in a couple, you must identify what attracts you in your partner. You have to remember the reasons why you decided to give him a place in your life. You also need to take the time to figure out what appeals to your man about you.
If you can figure out what makes you such a great and united couple, it will be easier for you to cope with the age difference. Indeed, you can remember them when you have doubts about the future of your relationship.
Admit that you and your man do not necessarily have the same aspirations and desires
You need to understand what “period” of his life your partner is in. Your age difference means that you may not have the same desires or the same priorities. Maybe your boyfriend is past the “party” period of his existence and prefers you to spend your evenings quietly at home when you are more of the club-shop type (or vice versa)?
To be successful at dealing with the age difference, you have to accept that your man may not have the same interests as you and that he may not be willing to follow you in everything you do. You probably aren't that keen to follow him in some of his hobbies either.
Communication is essential for every couple, but even more so for those affected by the age difference. You should not hesitate to communicate your needs and desires to your man. Everyone has different needs depending on the time of their life.
While certain things are right for you, your partner may not see life from the same point of view. How to blame him? He has concerns appropriate to his age and you have yours. If you don't tell him what you expect from him and what your needs and wants are, he can't figure them out on his own!
Put yourself on an equal footing
You should absolutely avoid entering the parent / child pattern. If you are older than your man, for example, you will have to resist the temptation to criticize him about the way he dresses, behaves, etc. Doing so may make him feel like you are trying to mother him and therefore belittle him.
On the other hand, if you are younger than him, don't let yourself be stepped on. You are a responsible adult, remember!
Your relationship has no future if you don't put yourself on an equal footing. This is the basis of a balanced torque, therefore of a torque that works.
With these 4 tips for managing the age difference in a couple, you should have some keys to better manage this difference on a daily basis. But before you are a “different” couple, you are a couple, don't forget. Make the most of each other and don't let your differences interfere with your romance, no matter what the bad guys say!
And you? Have you ever been in a relationship with a man much younger or older than you?