How to move on after facing adultery?
Love & Family
Avoid revenge, it does not relieve anything in the long run and you will only make the situation worse.Updated on October 18, 2020, Seytoo
Adultery is undoubtedly one of the most difficult trials to overcome for a couple. You’ve made up your mind to put it aside, once and for all, and move on after adultery. Time and goodwill must help you. But what can you do?
Know how to question yourself.
To move forward after adultery, you have to know how to reconsider what is wrong with the couple. You absolutely must renew the dialogue with your spouse. Express all your emotions without taboos, and without saying anything hurtful. You have the right to be angry, upset.
But don't be left on a purely negative note. The role of victim is a trap in which one should not fall. You undoubtedly have some responsibility for the weaknesses of your relationship. We must seek to understand the reason for this adultery.
We must know how to learn the lessons of this betrayal. Disillusions build character. You have to accept that your half is imperfect, and sometimes weak. No one ever belongs to anyone, and nothing is ever acquired.
Forgiveness is an essential act of moving forward after adultery. This is probably the hardest step, it takes time. And to forgive is not to forget.
In the future, we must therefore stop putting this story on the table, without stopping or enduring arguments. Let him be forgiven. He needs to be able to redeem himself and show you that you can trust him again. You will only come out growing up.
So, avoid revenge, it does not relieve anything in the long run and you will only make the situation worse. Forgiveness is given and cannot be taken back as you please.
Make plans to rebuild trust.
Together, making new projects allows you to move forward after adultery. You have to focus your attention on the future, and reconnect with your other half. A new joint venture breathes new life into the couple.
A trip, a new commitment or a purchase are all pretext for innovating and getting off to a good start together. A new project is also a pledge of trust, confidence in the other and in a common future.
The reality of daily life must be able to be brightened up by emerging initiatives. Each member of the couple must be able to invest and commit to each other more intensively. This helps strengthen the couple.