Marriage, conflicts and divorce: what differentiates yesterday from today?
Love & Family
Children’s balance is compromised, as is their education. Because once the parents are divorced, whether we like it or not, the children will be divided between two worlds, including that of the father and that of the mother.Updated on October 12, 2020, Fatoumata Labassou
In the past, the new husband as well as the new wife were advised and guided by the elders, but today that is no longer the case. Marriage was said to be a sacred bond. And when we got married, it was for life. But today we can see that marriage is taken more and more lightly.
Today marriage has become like a shirt which is gotten rid of as we wish. But, the risks and disadvantages of this act on children are immense. In the past, marriage gained its sacred quality through respect and consideration. Before marriage, both parents were responsible for educating and preparing their children, before their new life. Girls were educated by their mothers who instilled in them respect and submission to their husbands, which is still the case. Boys too were counseled by their fathers who instilled in them self-respect and respect for their wives, which is unfortunately no longer in use. In the past, a man out of respect for himself and out of respect for his parents would never have committed a “crime.” Honor and dignity were essential and also because at that time respect had a special place.
Nowadays, blatantly, men and women are fooling each other. Adultery has become the daily life for some. Neither spouse wants to forgive the other's deviations. It has become “eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth” game. People will not accept being disrespected, since no one wants to tolerate other people's bad behavior. The consequence is divorce. This act affects children in general in a negative way. Children’s balance is compromised, as is their education. Because once the parents are divorced, whether we like it or not, the children will be divided between two worlds, including that of the father and that of the mother. Hence they will be exposed to different types of educations, which is strongly discouraged. For the moral balance of the child, we ask that he be educated with the same principles, in any case, not with two contradictory principles.