What are the conditions necessary for a successful household scene?

Household scenes are absolutely essential to the balance of the family. It is impossible that spouses always agree on everything, that they always express themselves with perfect clarity on their differences, and that they always reach a perfect agreement. So long live a well-done cleaning scene! For a household scene to be successful, four conditions are necessary:

1. Refuse that it starts without our knowledge. When the atmosphere becomes heavy and electric, the storm is not far from breaking out; now is the time to schedule it. Let's set the time, duration and place (in camera, without the presence of the children).

2. Let us know that it will exceed its objective, the treatment of the punctual dispute which is only its detonator; if the most obvious conflict revolves around the holidays, in a succession of happy slippages, will also review the chickenpox of the youngest, the bad temper of the mother-in-law, the badly ironed pants, and the lack of compliments received by mom for her cooking.

3. By starting it, let us have the firm will to reach an agreement, but especially that this agreement is neither shoddy nor hasty. Let's drain all the pus from the abscess, without leaving any. Let us put courage and application into it.

4. Let us also accept that all conflicts are not only based on misunderstandings, but that we sometimes offend and be offended. It is only in the family that you can learn to forgive and be forgiven without risk.

The household scene is the prototype for all other family disputes. Spouses who succeed in their scenes are parents who know how to help their children to resolve their conflicts between brothers and sisters. We have seen above how they go about making oppositions of these educational opportunities.

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