What should you understand about your partner’s infidelity before acting?

You just found out from a well-meaning person or by chance that your husband cheated on you. Of course, for you it is a shock and you do not know yet if you are going to be able to forgive him this act of infidelity. Before making serious decisions, try to understand the why and how.

Differentiate between an afternoon sexual adventure and a romantic affair lasting several months. These two different actions do not have the same origin and the same gravity at all.

In the case of adventure, a man who loves his wife can cheat on her with another, simply by following his hunting instinct or because a man is not taught to say no to a female guest.

We must also take into account, his need for change to break the routine and curiosity about a new partner. In his defense, are you still available to seduce him and excite his libido?

If so, it is less tragic and do not dramatize this small gap, if not keep your discovery silent and go to win back your husband. Take out your crazy mistress outfit and leave it on his knees, he will later be less inclined to go running around.

On the other hand, what is more serious is the love affair version, which denotes a dysfunction in your relationship with certainly a lack of communication.

If a man goes to make love to a woman, it is not that tragic. However, if he goes to laugh with her, to speak with her, to make plans with her, is much more serious.

In this case, I advise you to speak with him about this discovery, without cries and without reproach, by trying to dissect the knot of the problems which brought him to this infidelity. It may not be too late to save your marriage and find love without sharing.

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