Why do you need to be selfish in love?
Love & Family
In love, be selfish ... it is necessary. But why?Updated on October 19, 2020, Seytoo
Who comes first, you or your relationship? While responding to “the relationship” may seem honorable and based on a deep level of love and commitment, it can be an unhealthy and destructive way to live. It is only when you can honor and love yourself first that the relationship can be true love rather than one based on need, addiction, fear, or insecurity. When each partner falls in love with each other, the relationship becomes an improvement in your life, not your life as such.
Some of you may have taken a plane once. Have you ever wondered why they tell you to put on your own air mask first before you help your own child? Sounds a little selfish, doesn't it? We are often told that love is self-sacrifice. Why are these companies asking us to save ourselves first? There is a practical reason. How can you help someone when you are unconscious or struggling to breathe?
Love is thus like this air mask. You cannot totally love another person unless you love yourself first. “Strap on that air mask tight,” and you can love endlessly afterwards.
If you don't love yourself first, you won't have any love to give. If you think of yourself first, honor yourself, and make your happiness a number 1 priority, you will be better equipped to love others - a true, sincere and deeper love. We can only love others to the same degree as we love ourselves.
To love yourself is to accept yourself, to accept who you are. Therefore, we love to the same degree that we are happy. While we are unhappy and fearful, we cannot love. Our ego is always trying to accept itself. When you don't accept yourself, life becomes twisted. Our attention becomes empty and leaving nothing more to give to the other.