Dear emigrants, stop sending money home, it doesn’t help!
Society and lifestyle
Dear emigrants, do not ruin your future to give yourself to social pressure. You think you are helping your cousins, brothers and sisters by sending them money. But in reality, not only are you ruining your future, but at the same time you are not helping them at all!Updated on November 26, 2020, Jolof
Dear emigrant, when was the last time you sent money home? Yesterday? A week ago? A month ago? How many times have you been approached by your direct family, or aunt's uncle to your wife's half-sister? How much did you send this time? What was the reason of the transfer? Baptism? Marriage? New shoes? “Ndawtal” (money used as a gift at a baptism or a wedding)?
These facts represent what almost all African emigrants experience. The simple fact of living abroad means that we are sometimes seen as ATMs serving those who have stayed behind. They are never interested in the situation lived by emigrants; what interests them is money. How this money is obtained or what the emigrants endure to earn that money... does not matter. What matters is what they believe: “living abroad rhymes with wealth, money falls from the sky or is plucked from trees.”
The much-overlooked reality is that making money overseas takes hard work. And as an emigrant, if you allow yourself to be emotionally manipulated by your family or cousins back home, you not only risk ruining your future, but you fail to help them to be mature, responsible and successful. appropriate their destiny.
How can you ruin your future by sending money home?
Ask yourself these simple questions: What could you do with all the money you send home? Have you taken the time to do the math and estimate the total amount of money you send home each year? How did you make that money? And worse, did you incur a debt to be able to send that money home? What is the interest rate on that debt? What is the impact of that new credit on your financial situation?
As the saying goes: “You should never provide warmth to others by turning yourself into charcoal.” In other words, don't get yourself into a mess trying to please others. As an emigrant and as a simple human being, you work hard to be successful in your life. You offer money to people who refuse to put in the effort to improve their lives.
I am not saying that we should not help people who are looking to improve their lives. For example, it is commendable to help someone get an education or start a business etc. What is not acceptable is sending money to people for fake rules created by our society. This money could be invested and it will create you a fortune that will save you in case you lose your precarious job abroad. The truth is, when you lose your job, what is certain is that those people you have helped will never come to your rescue. Worse, taking on debt to send money is madness. You are creating additional problems for yourself abroad that you could completely avoid. Why not say “NO” when you don't have the money?
Dear emigrants, do not ruin your future to give yourself to social pressure. You think you are helping your cousins, brothers and sisters by sending them money. But in reality, not only are you ruining your future, but at the same time you are not helping them at all!
Why doesn't the money you send help?
Teaching someone to fish is noble. Feeding him fish all the time is dangerous.
By sending money to people for unwarranted reasons, you encourage them to be lazy and to behave like pests and vultures instead of behaving like responsible individuals. How many people, fully fit and muscular today feed off the money they receive from their emigrant brothers and sisters? Yet these people have no valid reasons that can prevent them from working. Their lazy behavior is encouraged by the money you send them.
By feeding them, you tell them that they don’t have to try hard, that they can stay like parasites, vultures because they will be fed and housed. If we multiply these kinds of parasites that behave like this, we create a society of lazy people who do nothing for our countries. The moment something happens to their emigrant brother or sister overseas and the money stops "falling from the sky", these parasites turn to easy solutions such as robbery, theft or prostitution. Why? Because they grew up in an environment where they didn't learn to take care of themselves and their lives, to learn a job or to start a business for themselves. By sending money to these vultures, you are destroying our countries by creating a society that does not value hard work. Of course, the money can be spent inside the country. But what these people could earn by working hard would certainly be more sustainable and better for our country in the long run.
In conclusion, again I'm not saying that we shouldn't send money home. What I'm saying is when it comes to sending money, ask yourself if you are ruining your future and if you are really “helping someone become a fisherman.”
If the money you send is not going to have a negative impact on your financial situation, and it will be used to help someone work and stop asking you for money, your help is worthy.
If not, it is important that you reflect on the negative impact of your “generosity” on yourself and on our society.