Did you know that discussing your problems with women can make them worse?
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Expanding on their worries with their friends traps them in negative thought patterns that can lead to stress and depression.Updated on October 20, 2020, CD
Going out with girlfriends is usually a good opportunity to discuss our existential problems. One talks about her last love breakup, the other about her difficulties in finding a job. We imagine that it does us good to talk about it, with the people who know us best in the world. Experts say, however, that on the contrary, discussions between women do us more harm than good, since they make our problems appear more serious than they actually are.
Negative thought patterns
A team of scientists from the University of Missouri have studied the behavior of women. Expanding on their worries with their friends traps them in negative thought patterns that can lead to stress and depression. In the beginning, it's true that sharing your problems has a positive effect on the brain, but as you describe your anxieties, you become more and more depressed.
Women need support and validation of their opinions from their friends. But the more they approve of our way of thinking, the more we are convinced that the imagined concern is real. This group phenomenon is called “emotional contagion.” One person's negative thinking affects the mood of others.
According to psychologist Amanda Rose, men are more likely to do a lot of activities to avoid thinking about their problems. She encourages women to talk about their anxieties for just five minutes, then move on and discuss more fun things with women.